Do You Compare Yourself with Others?
This morning (as like every day), my husband told me how beautiful I am. My reaction was to immediately say, “thanks but I could lose a few lbs”. Yesterday was, “thanks but I’ll look much better when I shower”. It’s as if it comes out of my mouth automatically – this tendency to put myself down and not believe him. I’m in this comparison state where it’s almost like I’m in a competition. A competition with myself.
Like how about when you and a friend take a selfie. Do you have to look at it before she posts it to social media or do you make her take at least 5 before you think you look half decent to put that crap in public??
All through my life I have been comparing myself to others. My weight, my looks, how well I took photographs..the list goes on and on.
Do you do this too? I am SO GOOD at convincing other people that they are amazing and how comparing themselves to others does nothing for their case – comparing themselves to others doesn’t make them thinner or prettier or anything besides MISERABLE.
But we keep on comparing ourselves with others—again and again. Unsettling and pointless as it seems to be, we continue doing it. By now we are really good at it!
Why the heck do we do this to ourselves? It’s a form of torture, no? What has comparing ourselves to others ever accomplished for us?
Does it make us start an immediate diet? Do we all of a sudden want to go out and get a new job? I didn’t think so. I know it doesn’t do that for me. It does nothing but make us feel like CRAP.
I say, “Enough!”
How about we stop evaluating our self worth by comparing it with others??? It’s stopped me from so many things in the past but I’m not going to let it stop me anymore! Tomorrow when my husband tells me how beautiful I am I will just say “thank you” and leave it at that. Wish me luck 😛
I’d love to hear what you think about this – please comment with your thoughts below!!